If you're a man, tell your woman how much you appreciate her good qualities. Discuss her faults but stay in the feminine style of saying that you can live with her faults.
If she did something that's intolerable to you, don't angrily end the relationship without telling her what she did to anger you. She won't figure out that she did something wrong.
Women have a relatively narrow time window to marry.
If we never conflicted, we'd never change, achieve, create, or grow.
The unhappier the couple, the more likely they are to be happy five years later, if they stay together.
We are our own worst enemy.
Divorce doesn't solve these individuals' problems.
Art are truthful, from the point of view of the audience.
Novels and movies take us into a worlds we've never experienced.
Men don't judge women as being fat or thin.
The ideal is to look nice, but don't overdo it. If you're getting many dates but aren't meeting quality men, work on improving yourself, not your wardrobe.
Couples are also dissimilar for IQ tests, attitudes and opinions, hobbies and social activities, physical and mental health, height, weight, hair color, eye color, physical attractiveness, exercise, vocabulary, day or night person, preferred foods, number of brothers and sisters, and birth order.
Romantic movies begin with opposite individuals. So, agreement is not the basis of happy relationships.
60% of unhappily married couples that stay together report happiness five years later.
Married couples are dissimilar in more ways than they're similar.E.g., couples are, on average, dissimilar for personality types.
We talked, we cried, and we agreed to try. It's nineteen years later, and it is the thing we are most proud of.
When an unexpected event upsets you, the problem isn't the event. The problem is that you don't know how to respond. When you're upset you fail to see positive opportunities. You see only that your plans are blocked. Instead, stay flexible and look for opportunities in unexpected events.
When people laugh at you: Let them laugh. Laughs are hard to get and you’re sure that they're laughing with you and not against you.
We seldom turn weakness into strength.
Family members are good for helping you meet potential marriage partners. Take your mom to Festa Italiana or Irish Fest or Jewish Community Day. She'll find half a dozen mothers with children for you to meet.
Meeting Mr. or Ms. Right won't do you any good if he or she isn't thinking about romance.
Unresolved conflict wastes our time and energy, but resolving conflict makes us better off than we were before the conflict.
Partners who agree about everything can make each other miserable. E.g., you're fired from your job. You tell your partner that you'll never amount to anything. Your partner agrees. That isn't what you need to hear.
If both partners are miserable, they're not in conflict. The partners should work on disagreeing. Conflict will help them grow to a new life stage, in which they're no longer miserable.
In an opposite relationship, if you come home in an extreme emotion, e.g., despair, your partner responds with the opposite emotion, e.g., hope.
If you lost your job, your partner says that you'll get a better job.
A couple can relate differently in different areas of their lives. E.g., a couple might share a hobby, have opposite careers.
Men, in contrast, don't talk to other men about their problems.
Two-thirds of unhappily married couples that stay together report happiness five years later.
Divorce sets in motion events over which the individuals have little control-reactions of children or relatives, or difficulty finding or maintaining a new relationship.
25 to 29 is the ideal age for women to marry, depending on each individual woman's personality and how many children she desires.
Couples who are destined for divorce start out an argument in anger, criticize, show contempt for each other, and act defensively. When one tries to make peace, the other refuses.
In traditional marriages, the husband goes to work, the wife takes care of the home and the children.
Family members are good for helping you meet potential marriage partners.
Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.
Women like men who aren't afraid to show their vulnerable side.
The unhappier the couple, the more likely they are to be happy five years later, if they stay together.
Divorce creates problems.
Although our relationship fails, but we should expect points for trying to rebuild.
Women need long-term relationships.
Couples should stay together even when a relationship isn't perfect.
Another sign that a man will be a good husband and father is his relationship with his family.
Men who ignore a child in distress turn off women.
Focus on saving, not buying stuff. You'll be happier and your grandchildren will have a planet to live on.
